So here’s the story, it’s kind of long but worth a read. I’ve been dating my current gf for about 6 mo, things were seemingly going well. Last weekend she was gone overnight and I was watching her hosue for her. I was using her computer when I “accidentaly” signed into her yahoo messenger account. I was looking mostly because I knew she had archived all of our conversations from when we first met and I was curious to read them. However, it also appears that she archived several other conversations with other people. It appears that she had still been chatting with a guy whom she had a brief relationship. The content of the chats was very graphic, and I was led to believe there were also graphic phone conversations, all while she is dating me. I confront her, and she manages to get me to give her another chance. Anyway I findout today she has sent him an email, and asked him to call her tomorrow. She claims it is so she can tell him not to call any more. Dump her or talk to her?
More details… I found out “accidentally” that she was telling this guy to call again. I seem to be having these accidents. She claimed she knew I was looking at her messenger. I was, but she doesn’t realize I can’t see any convo’s she’s been having so she fessed up that he messaged her twice. About the guy; she told me about him when we first started going out. She said that they chatted online, and met a few times when he was in Chicago on business. She told me that he still calls, and they still talk however she only said that they talk as friends. So I knew that going in, but I obviously had no idea about the sexual nature of their ongoing conversations. The guy lives in Ireland so it’s not like she can physically be with him (at least not with any regularity), but the explicit nature of the conversations bothers me. She claimed she was going to stop contacting him, but then I find the previously mentioned email. I’m just at a loss for what to do.
February 23rd, 2010 at 12:02 am
Talk to her. You really don’t know what’s going on yet, don’t jump into conclusions, making assumptions is the worst you can do.
February 26th, 2010 at 8:48 am
well if you really care about her and could see a future, talk to her, but since its only been six months i would walk away now. that kind of stuff is just as bad as physically cheating on someone. get out before you start to go crazy.
March 1st, 2010 at 1:22 pm
ok did she tell U that she called or did U find out another way, if she didnt tell you then U should talk to her, or just dump her, if she hides things like this now, what will she do later? and what other things has she been keeping from you, or lies has she told?
just my though
March 3rd, 2010 at 5:15 am
dump her n get wit me
March 5th, 2010 at 8:29 pm
i’d wait to see if she really does tell him
March 6th, 2010 at 9:47 pm
Dump. She could have told him the same thing in an e-mail. All bullsh*t stories.
March 7th, 2010 at 7:09 am
Hm, sounds suspicious. Keep looking out for signs that she is still involved with this other guy. You don’t have to nose around her e-mail or her Messenger, the signs will be obvious. She’ll be secretive, and/or hesitant when you ask her about her day.
Confront her about this messaging with this other man if you are suspicious. If she denies it vehemently and is overly defensive about it, she is probably lying, so in that case you should get rid. Tell her kindly that you don’t want to see her if she is involved with another man. Be honest with her, tell her what it seems like to you.
I hope she isn’t planning to see him again, because it would hurt you if she does. Whatever the outcome, good luck!
March 8th, 2010 at 11:28 pm
Apparently She’s got some kind of “hold” on YOU cause you’re letting her play a game with You …and it’s all good cause the way I see it, and I’m all female, Up Until a Man PUts A ring on MY finger..”ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR…MAY THE BEST MAN WIN…GET THE PICTURE…
March 9th, 2010 at 7:49 am
dump her faster than yahoo m essenger can mess up again! Seriously .was it really an accident? I dont think so. She sounds like a player,do you want to be played?
March 10th, 2010 at 1:33 am
i love “accidentally” breaking into other people’s email accounts!
March 13th, 2010 at 12:33 pm
as fast as you want to