I have been with the same guy for two years now. I’m not sharing our ages so you cannot judge based on that; but we are in our twenties I’ll put it at that. It will mark two years in July this year. We’ve had our problems in the beginning. Now it all seems to be running it’s course down hill. It seems to me he does not know what he wants anymore and does not have the guts to admit it. Here is what gets me second guessing his actions 1 year and 8 months into the relationship. March of 2009 he asks for a break; because of trust from me accusing him constantly (I think i do it out of habit because of how I was treated in my last relationship) he never did anything to destroy my trust, but i kept doing that. Also it seemed a little stale. So I stayed at my moms and we took a ‘break’, it was about 2 weeks and we got back together. Everything seemed ok. Bur after the break i could just sense something more was there that wasn’t being said. After the break and we get back together, he tells me he’s moving next month! So I’m like not even warned about this only in a months advance?! So I’m like is one thing leading to an other here??
So from the beginning of our relationship, he has told me all about how he’s wanted to move to Arizona (he has family out there) after he visited in 2006. He’s always talked about it. But the thing is, he told me a month before he wanted to move; told me in march. He told me he had been planning it since December of 2008 but didn’t know if we was for sure; (but never said anything). That explains why he told me he never had any money, IT WAS BECAUSE HE WAS STASHING IT AWAY.He is staying with his grandmother who lives in a elderly housing; that’s his excuse as to why I could not come with him at first. His mother confirmed that with me that she does in fact live in elderly housing and she cannot have anyone living with her. He’s staying there temporarily; until he gets on his feet. He has no job yet, because of the bad economy I am guessing. He’s been in Arizona for a month and 2 weeks now.
Then out of the blue, he’s been thinking he says. And he has a lot on his mind. He still thinks we have trust issues because i accused him of something outrageous. He thought that the break and time apart for a while would work and then he thought this distance would bring us closer together and the accusing would stop; but it didn’t he says. So he said that we should split up for a bit (like it makes a difference we are 3,000 miles apart!) and talk about this as friends for a while and try to work things out. He says he still loves me very much and if it weren’t for the trust issues which is a big DEAL for him, that he thinks I’d be the ‘one’. He doesn’t want loose that. So he thinks being single for a while and doing our own thing is a good way to build trust. He says he has no intention what so ever to meet or date other people. He says he trusts himself in what he wants and want to make things better for us and still wants me to move out there with him. But he definitely wants to know that the accusing will stop before we continue this. Basically being apart really puts to test our trust, our loyalty, and our own word to the ultimate test; so he says. Without trust, you have nothing he says; I believe that’s true.Also he seems so eager to have me change my myspace status to single; which i haven’t yet, I’M NOT THAT DESPERATE to go flaunt that I’m single. (he hasn’t changed his either because I haven’t changed mine yet lol)
Does this make any sense!? OR does he just want to let me down easy?? Can someone please put some input?
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07 2nd, 2010| 